In recent months, 4 men appeared in headlines in almost all newspapers around the world.
From the sports scene, we have Tiger Woods, first got into a car accident, which slowly leads to the exposure of his extra-marital affair. And one woman after another keep popping up, claiming their share.
Then comes Chelsea captain John Terry, who got into a relationship with the ex-girlfriend of his ex-teammate, Wayne Bridge. Wayne Bridge and his former partner got a kid, and John Terry has a family too!
Then one more Chelsea player got involved. Defender Ashley Cole got kicked out of the house by his celebrity wife for his relationship with other women too.
And the most "HOT" scandal is Singapore's movie director Jack Neo, who got involved with a 22 years old model, who plays a role in his latest movie, "Being Human". Fortunately, his wife has forgiven him. But as news keep spreading, there are also more women coming up to claim their share too.
So there's a video from Yahoo! which features these 4 men. They find out from the public, Why Men Cheat?!
Here it is:
If you've watched the video, and listened to the people speak out, some says Why Men Cheat is because, they have acheived a certain level of success, and feels that they can do more things, so they try to take a step further. Or when men have fame and money, they tend to flirt around. When they have more money, they tend to spend it on younger girls. Or their wives are not attractive anymore..etc
Actually this is just a short 2min plus video, so it doesn't really gives the view of the whole general public, but just a few people on the streets that day.
With reference to the 4 men in headlines today, they have some similarity. They are wealthy, achieved a certain level of success regionally and internationally, and of course, they are famous too.
Some people said when men are rich, and famous, they tend to cheat.
Is it true?
I strongly say NO.
Money is not the reason. Fame is not the reason. If they are the reasons for men to cheat, then all male billionaires on Forbes list, pop stars and singers are all cheaters of their wives, since they are wealthy and famous.
Money and Fame can't be the root of the problem. How can they be?
They are just tools! They are dead objects!
To find out the root of the problem, find out from the source!
If someone rob the bank because of money, don't blame money. It's the person.
If someone uses a knife to kill, don't blame the knife. It's the person.
If someone uses the telephone to scam someone, don't blame the phone. It's the person.
If you got food poisoned from the rojak from a rojak stall, blame the rojak stall. Don't say that all rojaks are poisonous.
So if a man who has money and fame cheat, look at the man! Don't look at money and fame! If not, it will be very unfair to people who have money and fame!
In my opinion, there are a few reasons why men cheat.
1) They did not get enough love from the family/spouse.
Men are human beings too, and they need love and connection from the people they love. If men are being scolded by the wife every time they return home from work (why are you so late! why didn't you answer my call!...etc), they will feel disconnected from the family. They would not want to go back home and got scolded by their wives. (Men got Ego!) They would rather stay late in their office, and then find the love and connection they need from someone else.
2) Men would like an attractive wife.
Don't get me wrong here. I'm not saying that men must get young and attractive women when their wives are old. NO! What I mean is, men would want to go home and look at their attractive wife, who dresses well at home too. It is true that men are moved by what they see. In early stages of marriage, couples tend to dress well when dining, at home, or even on the bed. But as time goes by, dressing well is often neglected at home.
This can be worse for stay-at-home moms. Stay-at-home-moms seldom dress up themselves, since many thought that it's unnecessary to do so. But men would like to return home from work, looking at their beautiful wife (even in their golden years), and not a shabby-looking women. So dress up well, and welcome your tired husband back home after work everyday yea!
3) Irresponsibility and Ill-discipline
Men cheat because they lack discipline and irresponsibility. Actually, this applies to both sex too. They are going for short-term gratification, short-term pleasure. They want instant gratification, thrill, fun. But by doing that, they put their marriage at risk. They didn't think of the consequences that may come from getting these short-term enjoyment. They lack the discipline to control themselves. They can't resit the temptation. They 'go' for it, thinking if there's any problems after that, it's just a small problem, "no worries la!"
That's basically my 3 reasons (not money) why men cheat, but that's not the reasons why the 4 infamous men cheat. For the reason Why they cheat, I do not know, and I do not want to speculate. Instead, I would prefer the matter to rest, and move on.
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